Recently I was talking with a prospective client and he said to me "I know that I need to get healthy. I know what I need to do. I have a family history of health issues and I know that if I don't address some of these things now, I am going to end up with major health issues but I just can't seem to make it happen." Then, he asked me, " can you help motivate me?" To which I responded, "I can't. I can't motivate you to change your life. You are the one that needs to dig deep to find the leverage to change your life. I can tell how to do that - but you are the one that needs to do the deep work of making that happen."
I gave him the following free writing process:
1- I know that I should be taking better care of myself but I am not because I don't want to...... (start eating broccoli, go for a walk, give up my favorite cookies, etc.)
2 - If I continue down this path, this will happen..... (I won't be around to see my children get married, I won't be able to be active with my kids, I will stay in this grumpy uncomfortable state...)
3 - If I wanted to make a change this is the person that I would need to become...
Then, just decide that you will show up as that person. Much easier said than done but crazy impactful. You really need to go through the process of finding the LEVERAGE, finding something that is meaningful to you, and finding something that is SO BIG that you will never go back to being the person you were before. You really need to get to the point where you are like, I can either sit here and eat these cookies and not see my children get married OR I can decide to commit to a little movement and nourish myself a little better and completely change every aspect of my life.