He walked into the office just as I was saying: "Is that helpful, or do you want to punch me in the face now."
It was a real question and I wasn't sure of her response.
I was on a Success Session zoom call and I was challenging a limiting belief of one of our KickStarters.
She had the belief that the 'finish line' was so far away that she would never get there.
She was holding herself to an impossible standard.
She would only ever be all in or not at all.
I told her that she didn't need to think like that. I told her that if she wanted to be successful with health and fitness long-term she needed to stop comparing herself to others and start celebrating every single success.
Start celebrating every bottle of water, every time she meal preps, every time she registers for training sessions, every time she pulls up to the gym parking lot and walks through the front doors.
I told her to celebrate listening to her body and taking a break in the training sessions when she felt like it was too much. I told her to celebrate getting back to the work after a rest.
I told her that there is no finish line... ever. That we need to find a way to enjoy the journey and celebrate the habits that are going to make us successful for a lifetime.
I told her that it was her mindset around the finish line and the impossible standards that she was holding herself to that were holding her back.
Bottom line - it is your mindset that is the make it or break it when it comes to being successful with health and fitness long term. That is why we work on nurturing a healthy positive mindset so much in our training programs.
After a long pause... she confirmed that the tough love was helpful. I was able to let the breath out that I was holding in.